Wednesday, December 28, 2005

Back To The City Of Angels

Arriving in Bangkok is like coming home. This is one of my favourite cities in the world and I've spent the last hour smiling idiotically at all the familiar sights I've missed. But what started off as a holiday has now become a working trip.

PP and I will be heading for Phi Phi island on Friday where we will be distributing the rest of the aid we collected to the tsunami survivors. Our Going The Distance For Phi Phi & Galle campaign has been a huge success so far! PP just got back from Sri Lanka yesterday, where she bought stoves and kettles to 20 tsunami survivors in Galle. After a whole day of planning, shopping and packing the stuff into the van, distributing the goods made her feel like she had just run and won a marathon. Their reaction, she said, brought tears to her eyes. Women venturing tentatively out of their shacks, holding the stove in confusion, then shrieking in joy and disbelief. I hope we can bring the same elation to Phi Phi.

But now Khao San Road and it's treasures beckon so I'm off to treat myself to a soft serve ice-cream from McDonald's and a lovely afternoon of shopping!

Monday, December 26, 2005

One Year On

When I was in Koh Lanta last month, the manager of my guesthouse showed me a song book. It was a joint effort among local artistes to raise financial aid after the tsunami. The songs touched on various topics but two in particular stood out. They were about the tsunami and may have been performed at the commemorations in Thailand today. Fortunately, both included English lyrics.

Tsunami
Never dream, never thought
Of what may come
To be completely in the dark
To live these live upon the fear
Never sight, never sense it and there is no clue
What is tsunami out of the blue
How many lives that we have lost
They came like the Great Reaper
Upon the beach unstoppable power
Destroy everything
Tsunami
Never dare, we are all surrounded
They are seeking survivors
Oh no can't you see
We all tremble now with pain
No matter who, no matter which nations
There is no exception
Mother Nature masters everything
Everyone likes a little sand
Andaman
A place of paradise
Now we are leaving when they are dying
They had suffered whilst we are crying...oh life
Andaman
Still a paradise
No more pain, no more cry
Healing by love giving heart
No more pain, no more cry
Healing...


26/12/04
Well, I'm sure that by now
You have seen all the scenes
On the TV screens
And the statistics
It's the day after Christmas
We know that you’ll miss us
But we’ve gone away
It’s a wave and it came
Ant it took away everything
That meant anything
Schools and hotels
Temples and bells
A vision of hell
Mother or father
Sister or brother
Prince or pauper
There’s no difference
In their hundreds of thousands
A matter of second
They washed away
And you’d think
There is a reason
Or maybe a season
That is to blame
And those that survived
Are left wondering
Why oh why not me?

Friday, December 23, 2005

Tracking Down The Turkey

Four malls, eight supermarkets and not a single turkey in sight. Under each huge sign that announced 'Christmas Turkey' lay an empty container. Not even a gobble was left. Which was to be exepected 72 hours before Christmas. Except that my parents hadn't expected it. So there I was running around the Klang Valley like a headless turkey looking for a bird. Just one bird.

Afer speed walking through three malls, I sank into the seat across Tinselbits and fell upon my roast chicken with great relief. She remarked that I should perhaps try another mall. She had seen eight turkeys there just a while ago. By the time we got there, the container was empty. Uwilling to believe that EIGHT (her emphasis, not mine) birds could be snapped up within the hour, she proceeded to interrogate the staff, convinced they had purposely hidden the birds so they could sell them at double the price on Christmas Eve. From the looks on their faces, that idea hadn't even crossed their minds. But I bet they now wish it had.

The closest I came to getting my hands on a turkey was when another woman and I were pawing through a cluster of five birds. They were huge and we both sensed that the other was looking for the same sized bird. As we flipped over each weight tag, we shot a hurried look at the tag the other was holding, hoping desperately it wasn't the perfect size. Alas, none of them were.

At the end of the futile hunt, Tinselbits dished out an unexpected compliment. She said she had gotten caught up in the spirit of Christmas too because our hunt reminded her of Christmas comedies. Particularly those in which the father/mother remembers his son's/daughter's present on the night before Christmas and tears down the entire city looking for the last one. Her only complaint was that there was no catfight in our drama.

Perhaps next year.

Thursday, December 22, 2005

As It Usually Happens

Well, whaddya know? After staying up past the witching hour for the past few nights preparing for the magazine pitch, we get word on the morning of the big day that the pitching has been postponed to January 12th. Didn't know whether to laugh or cry. So I chose the second best alternative - plunge headfirst into eleventh hour Christmas shopping. I exited One Utama for the umpteeth time this morning with the final batch of presents. Now it's my sister's turn to wrestle with the wrapping.

I can't wait to get home tomorrow evening. No doubts the highways will be choked with traffic but the thought of the festive air back home more than makes up for it. Pie, turkey, ayam masak merah, tomato soup, lamb, chutney, acar, coleslaw, mash potatoes and if I'm lucky, even trifle. And that's only the Christmas Eve dinner menu!

By the time I crawl into my next yoga class, the only pose I'll be able to muster would be The Pot-Bellied Pig....if it existed.

Tuesday, December 20, 2005

A Dual Celebration Tomorrow

Last week my business partner dropped me an email that sent me into a bigger frenzy than all the Christmas shoppers in the Klang Valley put together.

The message was sweet and succint: 'Please take note that the date for the magazine pitch has been set for Dec 21.'

That was one whole week before the previously agreed date. I had five whole days to whip the entire mock-up, rate card, powerpoint presentation, editorial lineup and advertising revenue projection into shape. Hello midnight oil, goodbye lunch-hour-Christmas-shopping.

After spending the last five days in a haze of frantic writing, sourcing, designing and compiling, we're finally ready to unveil our baby. Today we were finally able to look at the mock-up and each other with outspoken glee instead of unspoken anxiety. Our eyes sting, our right index fingers are numb with scrolling and clicking and I could really do with a tall, ice-cold glass of gin tonic right now. Or even better, a long leisurely dip into any of the shiny new books nestling in the other-people's-Christmas-presents box. But there is still the blasted PowerPoint presentation to complete, so all those indulgences will have to wait until after 6pm tomorrow.

A celebration tomorrow would also mark another small victory. The 'Going The Distance For Phi Phi & Galle' campaign that PP and I put together on December 1st. When we first began the campaign, we hoped we could raise at least RM2,000. 20 days later and we're staring unbelievingly at the RM7,500 in our collection box. We knew we would have strong support from family and friends, but we never dreamed it would be this powerful!

On Thursday, PP will be going to Galle to attend the one year anniversary and to give aid directly to those who need it. A few aid agencies have stepped up to point us in the direction of the worst-affected and what they need. So while paying homage to the coconut tree that saved her life, PP will also be bringing gifts of fishing nets, rations and what-have-you to those who are still displaced. And next Wednesday, both of us will prepare to travel to Phi Phi to do the same there.

In hindsight, the campaign has done more for me than for the survivors. It has restored my faith in human compassion. So the next time someone says, "No one gives a rat's ass anymore!" I can reply, "Actually they do."

Friday, December 16, 2005

Battling the Book

I had lunch with Mentor in Atria on Wednesday. We passed Payless Books on our way out and all it took was a "Shall we go in?" from Mentor for me to gallop straight in. Within fifteen minutes I was clutching three absolutely-MUST-buy-TODAY books. A C.S Lewis book (of which the title has completely escaped my mind right now!) Zadie Smith's White Teeth and Alice Walker's The Temple of My Familiar. Since the latter two are on my Christmas list, I reluctantly put them back. Idly browsing through the biography section, I noticed a fat sunny yellow book peering out merrily from its spot. Take Me With You by Brad Newsham. Mentor strolled up, peered at the book and said, "That's a really good book. Very funny!" It seemed like the perfect gift for my cousin, Richard. At least, until I left Payless.

By the time I got home, I was wondering whether he would really enjoy it. Perhaps I should read a couple of pages to be sure. One page later and I had to force myself to put it down before I devoured it completely. Yes, I firmly told myself, Richard would love this book. I looked at it again. Oh, the upper corner was slightly creased. Wasn't there a Christmas law against giving damaged goods as presents? But what if I was depriving him of a really good book. Better read another page to be sure it was good enough for him. As I read, wonderful images danced in my mind's eye to the tune of Mentor's earlier praise of the book. Five minutes later, I slammed the book shut.

This was unacceptable, I told myself sternly. No true book lover would voluntarily give away what they know FOR SURE would be a great book. Not even during the season of giving. It would be sacriligeous. So I decided to keep it.

Today I found the perfect book for Richard. This Is Paradise by Hyok Kang. From the shelf to the counter, I stole a few cursory glances at the pages and a feeling of deja vu crashed over me. Now I have to fight the same battle all over again.

Sunday, December 11, 2005

Decking The Halls

Eva, my Swiss backpacker friend, hopped on a bus to the air-conditioned island of Singapore last Friday. I bid her adieu, half wistfully and half relieved. I adore running a mock backpacker's joint but after 72 hours, the four walls start tiptoeing closer towards me and my air supply grows thin. That's when I ring my mental check-out-time bell. (Note to self: impose maximum of three days stay for future guests)

But Eva was absolutely delightful! She loved everything about Malaysia - the rain, the LRT, the blazing sun. She went crazy in Masjid India, was gobstruck at the size of KLCC, went wild in Kinokuniya, enthusiastically wolfed down thosai and chapati, polished off the ketupat and satay sauce, closed her eyes in pleasure after her first heaped spoonful of nasi lemak and then asked for seconds, and savoured her leisurely stroll from the Bangsar LRT to Telawi 3. Nothing makes me fall in love with my country faster than watching someone else helplessly succumb to its charms!

Now that Eva has continued her journey, I can finally turn my attention to the High Priority task on this month's To-Do list. Decking my halls with boughs of holly. Bought from Metrojaya, of course. But the lack of pine tree, snow angels and crackling fires do little to damp my Christmas spirits. In fact, my spirits are higher than the contents of a bottle of Galliano right now.

I love Christmas and even that's an understatement! The minute I flip over the November page of my calendar, I start getting minor palpitations. Delicious shivers of excitement strum my spine and my heart feels lighter than a snowflake. And when the sweet Christmas breeze dances into my apartment, I lie on the floor, smile my biggest idiot-like smile and hug myself in happiness.

Is it corny for your stomach to get tied up in knots at the sight of a gorgeous Christmas tree, at the smell of freshly baked cookies and at the sound of carols? Perhaps, but I say to hell with being too posh for pleasure! Everyone is entitled to indulge in corniness if it makes them feel ridiculously happy!

Wednesday, December 07, 2005

Through Another's Eyes

Yesterday PP and I threw open our doors to a young Swiss backpacker. We met Eva in Thailand and when she mentioned she was planning on passing through Malaysia, we thought it would be fun to play tour guide again. In fact, since last year we've been gracious hostesses to three Dutch girls, one Israeli/American girl, one English lad and now, Eva. All whom we've met on our travels.

Most people view my open house practice with alarm. "Eh, you better be careful la. You don't know where these people have been and what diseases they're carrying." or "I don't understand how you can be bothered to jaga orang lain." or "You better lock up all your valuables, man! You never know these people might rob and run."

Wehave yet to listen to any of these warnings.

What they don't understand is that we're not hosting strangers. We're hosting friends. People whom we've met in a strange land and with whom we've discovered a connection. People who are just as interested in finding out more about our lives as we are about theirs. People who have made the liberating decision to live with only their clothes on in their backpack for the next 6-12 months, and who secretly long for a private room and shower for just a couple of days. That's not too much to ask.

But we have an ulterior motive too. When we showed our first guest, the Israeli/American girl around KL, we pulled over across KLCC to scout for a good picture-taking spot of the Twin Towers. Our friend climbed out and exclaimed, "Oh my god! It's beautiful!" All three of us craned our necks up at the towers, stretching magnificently skyward and glittering gloriously against the night sky. PP and I looked at each other with the same thought - "Actually it IS really bueatiful." And that marked the first of a million more times we would fall in love with our country after looking at it through a stranger's eyes. Since then we've been taking the extra step everytime a foreigner graces our soil by introducing them to nasi lemak, banana leaf rice, Ladies Night, batik, PS Boutique and Chinese restaurants with frogs on the menu.

Last night I got Eva, a fruit fanatic, acquainted with nangka, jambu air, dragonfruit and jambu. Between us, we polished off RM26 worth of fruits in half-an-hour. This morning she wandered around the Central Market and is currently enjoying a coffee in Starbucks while waiting for me to pick her up. Tonight, we're heading down to Brickfields for banana leaf and then to the Twin Towers again. This time PP is hauling along her tripod and camera as well. We can't let the foreigners have the best pictures now, can we!

Monday, December 05, 2005

Touched By Tibet


Last night I completed a book I found at a secondhand bookstore in Koh Lanta, Thailand. I had been planning to travel to Tibet next year, so when my eyes fell upon For Tibet With Love, I of course saw that as a sign! But the book isn't about Tibet. Instead it's about the author, Isabel Losada's, experience of discovering, learning about, fighting for and falling in love with Tibet. And despite the preachy tagline 'A Beginner's Guide To Changing The World', there is nothing preachy about her storytelling.

I absolutely loved the book! Losada speaks with honesty, candidness, wit and passion. Her strengths and weaknesses have an equal place in the spotlight and not once does she ramble on about how her life has changed or how wonderful it is to be good to mankind. Rather, she articulates thoughts that all of us would have harboured at some point in our lives but would rather have our teeth pulled out than admit it. There's no subterfuge of any sort and she lays her cards out right from the start - she has written the book to raise awareness about the plight of Tibetans and to hopefully inspire more people to stand up for the country. I read it with a cocktail of emotions ranging from amazement and admiration to horror and disgust. The best bit is when she meets the Dalai Lama. That's when I took comfort in the fact that I'm not the only person who is reduced to idiocy in the presence of those I hold in high regard.

For Tibet With Lovealso gently unveiled my ignorance. I had met a lovely Tibetan lady two years ago while travelling in Goa and though she told me how she fled Tibet to seek refuge in India, I'm ashamed to say that it didn't strike a nerve. Now it has and I'm more determined than ever to set foot in this country.

P/S: Highly recommended especially to those who think China is God's gift to mankind.

Friday, December 02, 2005

Going The Distance Campaign


I can't believe it. The humble campaign Partner-In-Crime (PIC) and I amateurishly launched yesterday is blasting full steam ahead. The response we've received is amazing. Here's what we've done.

After bearing witness to the minimal financial aid that Phi Phi received and reading about a similar plight in Sri Lanka, we decided it’s finally time we made our contribution. So we launched the Going The Distance For Phi Phi & Galle campaign.

But this isn’t a public campaign. We’re only approaching friends and depending on our reputation and their trust to raise funds. How much are we hoping to collect? It doesn’t matter. A Sri Lankan man told PIC (who survived the tsunami in Sri Lanka) he had lost his entire life savings of R16,000 which is roughly about RM1,000. So no amount is too small for those who have nothing.

We’ve started the ball rolling by putting in RM1,500 of our own money. I’ve also decided to add a fun twist by promising to kick my 27-year nail biting habit in return for donations. Friends think it’s hilarious. What’s even funnier is that some have pledged to contribute a certain amount for each millimeter my nails grow. It’s so nice to see people laughing while opening their wallets!

The campaign will run until December 20 and the money will be divided between Galle and Phi Phi. On December 22, PIC will be traveling to Galle for the first anniversary and on December 29, both of us will be heading to Phi Phi. In other words, your money will be given directly to the people who need it most.

I'm thrilled by the support we're getting! Also greatly touched by our friends' generosity. And knowing that we'll be giving some people a brighter New Year makes me feel like I just drank a gargantuan mug of hot chocolate!

Thursday, December 01, 2005

Land of Sad Smiles

I returned from Thailand yesterday with a lovely tan and a broken heart.

Partner-In-Crime (PIC) and I spent the past week in Phuket, Koh Lanta and Koh Phi Phi. All three islands still bear the scars of last year’s tsunami. Especially Phi Phi.

The minibus wove its way through the narrow road towards our usual guesthouse in Phuket and it suddenly occurred to us that the building might no longer exist. To our relief, it was still there. The owner welcomed us back with a big smile and we spent the next half-hour chatting about the tsunami. She related how the water had gushed inland, sending she, her husband and their five dogs scrambling to the upper floor for safety. Many survived the wave, she said, but not the electrocution. Unlike Phi Phi, the wave hadn’t cut the power supply and torn cables lines sent jolts of electricity through the churning water.

We mentioned we were heading to Phi Phi to look for a friend. A handsome young Thai boatman named Win whom we had befriended on our first trip there. He usually slept in his boat at the water’s edge until late morning. We prayed he had found another bed that Christmas night. She wished us luck but warned us that Phi Phi was still in bad shape.

That night, we strolled along Patong beach and marveled at how expertly it had gotten back on its feet. Scrubbed floors and a few licks of paint, and it was like the tsunami never happened. The beach was brightly lit. A policeman scanned the sea for any suspicious happenings. A young Japanese girl stood on the sand, gazing with the saddest eyes at the black water. It was a beautiful night. If you tried hard enough, you could almost convince yourself the tsunami never happened.

The next day we headed to Ko Lanta, where Win’s family lived and ran a guesthouse. Our search was futile but a few locals assured us that he and his family had survived. He had returned to Phi Phi again, they said. We would stop there on our journey back. The rest of our stay in Lanta was spent talking to the locals and hearing their stories. For most of them, the horror was still fresh in their minds.

Pat, the manager of our guesthouse, is a resident of Khao Lak, the worst hit island in Thailand. He told us how he awoke to a roaring sound on Boxing Day. Peering out of his window, he saw the water rushing towards him. He immediately smashed the window and climbed onto the roof, where he hung on until the wave snatched him down and propelled him inland. As the water receded, he knew another wave was coming and made his way to a concrete building. He stayed there until the tsunami was over.

The bar manager, Yor, told us how he ran for his life when he saw the wave approaching his beach bar. Tong, the manager of the neighbouring guesthouse, attributed his survival to his girlfriend, who woke him up to see ‘the sea’s strange behaviour’. He escaped by the skin of his teeth.

Their stories were all different but they all uttered the same chilling sentence – “I thought today I die for sure.”

I couldn’t even comprehend what that felt like. PIC, who almost died in Sri Lanka, knew exactly what it did.

Before we left for Phi Phi, Pat got our his guitar and played us a song that a group of Thai bands had composed for the first anniversary later this month. It brought tears to my eyes. I will post the song up on December 26th.

Then we traveled to Phi Phi. Our Phuket guesthouse lady’s warning did nothing to prepare us for the sight that greeted our eyes. Before the ferry would swing around a huge limestone and Phi Phi would glide into view, its fringe dotted with longtail boats, rows of umbrellas and happy people in colourful swimsuits. This time, there was a smattering of boats and an empty beach. Where once you couldn’t see past the first row of beach front chalets, you could now see right to the other end of the island. I felt like a part of me had died.

Phi Phi has a special place in my heart because that’s where I chose to take my very first solo trip. I fell in love with it at first sight and stayed in love. To see it shattered was heart-wrenching.

We stepped onto the pier in a daze and there stood Win! After the ecstatic hugs and exclamations, he looked at us and said, “Phi Phi finished. Your bungalow finished. All gone.”

Then he slung his arms around us and took us for coffee. I will never forget his story.

He and his brother Fad, had been in Koh Lanta that morning and were extremely reluctant to go work in Phi Phi. But their sister and father wouldn’t hear of it. There were customers waiting to go on tours in Phi Phi so they had better get their brown butts out of bed. So they did. While waiting for their customers to show up, they decided to have breakfast at a coffee shop by the pier. Halfway through, the water disappeared into the horizon. Win ran out to examine the odd phenomenon. Tourists were disembarking from a packed ferry that had just docked. Behind them, racing faster than a bullet train, was a monstrous wave.

When it hit the island, people from one end were thrown to the other and sucked back again. Chalets fell like matchbox houses. Zinc roofs flew into the water, slicing people. The second cause of death after drowning, Win said.

“I run to Phi Phi hotel, but too many people already. So I run to mountain. Water is behind me. Noise very bad and so many people screaming “Help me!”. But I cannot stop. Water touching my feet. I think today I die.”

He tells us his story with his hands over his ears, as though still hearing the sound. His eyes are filled with anguish.

Win and many others stayed up the mountain for the rest of the day and night. Rumours spread that another wave was coming and many of the injured died from shock and the effort of trying to climb higher up.

At daybreak, they descended to find bodies and body parts strewn all over the island. In one area, bodies were stacked up like a wall. Dead fish were everywhere. The Reggae Bar became a makeshift hospital. Everyone was evacuated as soon as possible – the locals to Krabi and the tourists to Phuket airport. When the locals returned, nothing was left of their beloved island.

Win took us to the PP Twin Palms where we stayed during our first trip. It was gone. Then he took us to PP Pavillion where we stayed during our second trip last January. He said that the most number of deaths came from those chalets. We stared in silence, thinking of how much we loved those chalets and of the glorious week we had spent in its serenity.

Around us were pieces of debris, a sprawling vacant land, Thai boatmen trying in vain to entice tourists into a tour of the islands, makeshift stalls selling trinkets and a half built chalet.

As we surveyed the area, it puzzled us how Phuket was able to bounce back and Phi Phi was still struggling to even get on its knees. Then Win told us a story that was almost as shocking as the tsunami.

After being promised heaven and earth, the people of Phi Phi had only received RM200 each as compensation. No one knew where the millions of dollars in donations had disappeared. The residents had grown tired to waiting for the government to keep to its word and began to take matters into their own hands, by reopening their businesses as best they could.

Win, who had lost his boat Jennifer, is now working in a travel agency on the island. Even that is struggling to stay afloat. Tourists are trickling back but not enough of them for the Phi Phi residents to rebuild their lives again. We gave Win RM200 before we boarded our ferry and promised to be back with more.

On the journey back, PIC and I put our heads together and discussed how to raise money for the Phi Phi residents. Our plan is slowly but surely taking off and to our delight, many friends have come forward to offer support.

I will post pictures of Phi Phi here soon. If any of you are contemplating visiting the island, please do. The beaches are still gorgeous and the people still wonderful. Prices may be a little steep but let me know if you’re planning on heading that way and I’ll get Win to work something out for you. Any support, no matter how small, goes a long way.